“The girl Rory met on our first date and the girl he later married aren’t exactly one and the same.”

First date (and beyond) Kim always wore makeup and made a mean morning-after breakfast. Wife Kim passes on makeup unless she’s leaving the apartment and lets Rory handle breakfast. (What can I say? He’s a better cook than I am!)

Of course there are walls that come... [Read more]

here are some things I’ve learned in my 31 years, and what I wish I’d known about dating ten years ago:

1. If you’re confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that’s probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without... [Read more]

Found this great Q&A Check it out.

Basically, my boyfriend doesn’t know me that well. He thinks he does, but in reality, he’s never bothered to ask about things like my religion, my relationship with my parents, the name of the book I’m writing, etc. We’ve had plenty of conversations where he could’ve easily inquired about these things but I get the sense... [Read more]

This morning, we’re helping out a reader who is playing the waiting game.

Here’s her dilemma:

My boyfriend of a year and a half and I broke up about 6 weeks ago. He’s starting his 5 year Ph.D. program in the fall, in Michigan (we’re in NYC now). He’s dead set on starting this alone, focusing on the school work and getting his life set up. Things started getting a little rough... [Read more]

Today I woke up and decided that Love is complicated. lol……I knew that all along of coarse but the incite you gain from relationships is amazing.

I am not looking in retrospect. I have loved lost and loved again. However how do you know when you have found that Mr.Right. The guy that makes your entire world seem like it is amazing.

When do you know that you want to spend... [Read more]

Research shows that supportive relationships are good for our mental and physical health. However, dealing with difficult people and maintaining ongoing negative relationships is actually detrimental to our health. It’s a good idea to diminish or eliminate relationships that are filled with conflict. But what do you do if the person in question is a family member, co-worker, or someone you otherwise... [Read more]

Stress in any form can be tough to deal with, but stress related to your relationship is always the hardest. Relationships can really be the cornerstones to our lives, and when there’s conflict in that area of our life it’s hard to prevent it from affecting the other areas. No matter how great your relationship is, there will be times when it’s stressful. I think that a certain amount of fighting... [Read more]

This entry was written on Dec 22, 2008 by our Relationship Guru Barbara Gibson

Looking for ways to enjoy some fun, together time on a tight budget? Try one of the following tips for winter fun that is free or cheap. The bonus - your date is sure to be impressed by your thoughtfulness, you’ll likely enjoy more quality time and, of course, you’ll save some green.

1. Have... [Read more]

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It’s a sad state of affairs when a man has no clue that his woman is going to dump him, but stories abound of men who thought their relationships were just hunky dory, and then the next thing they knew, their wives up and left. Here are a couple examples…

One man I dated told me how he and his former wife had moved to a beautiful house in the country. One day not long after they... [Read more]